Match.com have a wealth of dating advice on the site, which is a great offering for anyone looking to get into the world of online dating!
We recently came across one of their articles that caught our eye – it was a down-to-earth list of ‘rules’ on online dating that was designed as a guide for people to get a feel of how to best put together their online profile. You can read the full article here, but we have picked out the top tips that we really believe here at HDR. Happy Dating and don’t forget, if you are looking to try Match.com, you can go here for your 3 day Match.com free trial!
“I love music and being with friends.” Well, duh!
The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with. You do this by being original and, above all, specific about your interests. Instead of saying that you like sunsets, mention the best sunset you’ve ever seen. Say which music you like, and your favourite place to see your friends. Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.
Zip up your baggage
Most living grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. But never admit it to a new or potential lover. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Keep schtum until you know each other better.
Ditch the wish list
Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists. They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, short hair, between 5’10” and 6′, from north-east Birmingham, and so on. These lists are off-putting for two reasons. First, they make the writer sound like a control freak. Second, they sound like an exact description of the writer’s ex.
No photo? No chance
Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. A picture-less ad says: “I am so ugly I didn’t want to risk a photo,” “I am married,” or “I am on the run from Broadmoor.”
Don’t fall in lust with a photo
Use photos and emails for spotting potential, but don’t start fancying the pants off a two-dimensional image. You may be disappointed in person.
You might not get any emails
This is a cruel fact of life for online dating beginners, especially men. More men than women advertise on most dating sites, so the girls get the pick of the bunch. Don’t get despondent. Read the profiles that get most views, and pick up tips from them. Tweak your ad and try changing your photos. Also – have you contacted anyone yourself?
You don’t have to reply
Some rookies assume that they must answer every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. Don’t bother. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.
Meet quickly, or stop emailing
Don’t allow an email conversation to drag on for weeks without a date. You may think you’re “connecting”, but you can’t judge chemistry unless you meet up. Six emails in total – not each – is enough to know whether you want a date.
Have sex if you want – and not if you don’t want
Having sex doesn’t make you morally corrupt, and it won’t necessarily wreck your chances of a relationship. If you’re both adults, single and you use protection, it’s your choice – but if you’d rather not, that’s your choice too. Never be pushed into sex that you don’t want.
Call them the next day
Ignore those rules about waiting three days to get in touch. If you like someone, you have nothing to lose by letting them know. If they are interested, they’ll be happy that you called. If they’re not interested, at least you’ll know – and you can move on to the next date.